Heavenly Father pointed this out to Joseph Smith when He told him that all things were for his experience and even went on to say for his GOOD! He pretty much fore-told Jospeph everything that would happen to him and then added many things that I think happen to us and others so that nothing could be left out. How could all these terrible things for his good? Well it all starts in how we look at them. Do we really believe that God loves us and will only give us gifts, or do we believe that He will do things and allow things to happen to us that are "bad"? Because if we really know Heavenly Father we KNOW that it is ALL for our good and that it is all a gift! Yes it can be looked at as bad, but that is only the label we put on it. If we are going to go through it anyway, why not see the gift before we have recieved it? Why not get a jump on it and experience what we know will eventually be the outcome, the gift of it. That is my goal, to always see the gift, even before I begin to experience it. I choose to experience the gift and joy in the pain! It is how my pain is swallowed up in the joy of the Savior. It is my view on 'what is' that counts, nothing else!
I love joy and find ways to experience it even when others would not be able to find it. I find joy in all areas of my life!